Good day All
This originated as a response to a friend’s Facebook Question on Parenting. which asked, in relation to the call to respect our parents and elders, “Do we respect people because the inherently deserve respect or because they have earned our respect?”
I tend to think that we don’t really understand the concept of respect as it applies to parents and elders.
There are many definitions of respect the two that are often confused are the respect of person and the respect of position both are very different. One is reverence and one is deference. Deference to a right, privilege, privileged position, or someone or something considered to have certain rights or privileges. Not that the person respected is always right but they have been placed in authority. To Respect your elders in the Biblical term means to defer to them. In Ephesians 6:1-4 it outlines that respect is a two way street while children are to defer to their parents Parents are called to not provoke their children.To create a mutual bond. In today’s society we don’t get that the duty of a parent is to instruct a child to do what is right for the child and thus you are proactively given the authority to make decisions for them which they are called to respect.. The problem is if the parent was never instructed then the whole thing falls apart. While the reverence (respect) is earned Authority (respect) is a policy that is proven to work in most cases. However if the parent fails in the task of parenting (revokes the Anger of the child) the right of respect can be removed. Away from parents to “elders” this falls under the Christian duty to be passive. We are called to defer to all authority including Caesar” (the state) and our enemies. Again we are back to the idea of a selfless (https://billarends.wordpress.com/2013/01/12/the-best-of-all-possible-worlds-or-just-a-long-boring-ramble-on-christianity-selfishness-selflessness-and-politics/) That is my 2 cents worth (or nickle now the penny is gone)
English Standard Version (ESV)
Children and Parents
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” 4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.